7 + PAST AND CURRENT TRAUMAS AND THEIR RESULTS

HAVING BEEN FIRED FROM A JOB
Feeling as if one has been betrayed
Fear of falling into debt
Losing self-respect
Obsessing over what might have gone wrong or what one could have done different
Working hard or late hours to try to change employers mind before the date of termination
Creating/Polishing resume and perusing job hunting
Indulging in reckless behaviour – drinking – drugs
Sucking up to employer or management before the date of termination
Feelings of hostility, confrontational, defensiveness, bitterness, stress, anxiety and possible depression
Fear of losing respect from others, ie, spouse, child, parents, friends
Fearing they might disappoint their next employer
Fearing they may be left with a bad reputation

HAVING BEEN CHEATED ON
Feelings of hurt, anguish, desperation, betrayal, bitterness, vulnerability, embarrassment, denial
Fearing they are not good enough
Feeling ugly
A fear of being alone forever
Looking for signs of deceit if continue into to date person or dating someone else afterwards
Trust issues that may last a lifetime, especially if cheated on at a early age
Control issues
Difficulty giving their current or future partner privacy
Becoming easily suspicious when their partner or future partner is late from work, goes out with their friends, or has a sudden interest in appearance
Leaving one’s partner, or asking partner to leave
Suddenly worried about one’s appearance, ie, obsessive dieting or exercise
Filing for divorce
Returning the favour, ie, having a one night stand, or seeing an ex lover behind cheating partner’s back
Intimacy issues
Not being able to focus on tasks, work projects, school

HAVING BEEN SEXUALLY ASSAULTED/VIOLATED
Feelings of dread, anger, grief, depression, distrust, fear, guilt
Engaging in risky behaviour
Blaming oneself
Feeling dirty
Feeling shameful
A difficulty trusting someone
Low self-esteem
Abusing drugs or alcohol to forget
Problems with intimacy
Avoiding friends, family, work
PTSD symptoms
Becoming angry because the person might have gotten away with it

ACCIDENTALLY KILLING SOMEONE
Feelings of grief, despair, sympathy, self-hate
Telling oneself, it should have been me
Punishing oneself
Abusing drugs or alcohol or both
Occupying one’s mind with work, hobbies
Feeling one is no longer worthy
Fearing their secret becoming mainstream
Fearing that loved ones will abandon them
Fearing it could happen again
PTSD symptoms
Permanently haunted by nightmares
Insomnia or difficulty sleeping
Moments of denial, he was the one who stepped out onto the street wearing all black
The need to be surrounded by people
Paranoid that harm might come to someone one loves
Feeling numb, disconnected and disattached
Difficulty with reminding affectionate

LOSING A LIMB
Experiencing phantom sensations where limb once was
Attempting to hide missing limp with long clothing
PTSD symptoms
Avoiding social events
Facing prejudice, pity or bullying from others
Becoming isolated

HAVING BEEN HIT BY LIGHTNING

An irrational fear of thunderstorms that one hadn’t had before
A new interest in learning about lightning and other weather
Permanent nerve damage resulting in chronic pain or discomfort
Permanent scarring from burns making one feel self conscious
Post traumatic stress disorder
The loss of one of five senses permanently or temporarily resulting in depression
Permanent brain damaging affecting one’s ability to work
Permanent twitching, shaking in the hands, slight jerky movements
Wanting to tell every person one meets about their rare experience
Questioning their faith, ie, “why did God strike me?” Or “God has saved me.”
Counting their blessings and feeling lucky to be alive – a new sense of self-worth
A slight shift in personality change
Trying to forget associated memories in and around the time of the incident
Permanent paralysis resulting in terminating employment and collecting disability funds
Insomnia or having trouble sleeping
Feelings of despair, grief, depression, paranoia, anxiety, fear, loss of appetite, gratitude, addiction
Long term bouts of seizures, vertigo, cardiac problems, ringing in the ear
Difficulty finding a doctor who has experience with lightning strike injuries

HAVING BEEN OR BEING BULLIED

Low self-esteem and feeling one isn’t good enough
Suicidal thoughts
Self harm and other reckless behaviour
Befriending animals
The desire to improve on ones social skills
The desire to seek approval from peers
Striking back with rumours and gossip or violence
Phases of denial – trying to block out threats so is able to concentrate on life

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